Making a woman fall in love and get attached often seems like an elusive goal for many men. They believe that in order to attract women, they need to have certain boxes checked – things like money, status, looks etc. However, the truth is that women fall in love for very different reasons than men think.
In this article, we will reveal the real elements behind female desire and what actually makes women fall deeply in love. Once you understand these core concepts, you’ll be able to create true emotional connections with women and make them desire you intensely.
It’s Not About “Chemistry” or “Compatibility”
In today’s dating advice, you’ll often hear that it’s important to have “chemistry” and compatibility with a woman in order to build attraction. The idea is that you need to have things in common with her, spend a lot of time together and build comfort and rapport.
However, the reality is that chemistry and compatibility actually have little to do with making a woman fall in love. Women don’t fall for men they feel are compatible with – rather, women fall for men they look UP to. Female desire is not logical – it’s emotional.
It’s All About Perceived Differences in Sexual Market Value
The core element behind making a woman fall in love is creating a perceived difference in sexual market value between you and her. In other words, a woman is most attracted to a man that she believes is of higher value than herself.
She wants to date up – this is hardwired in female psychology. When a woman perceives a man as being higher value, she sees him as the prize to win over. This kicks her competitive instincts into high gear and makes her determined to earn YOUR approval and desire.
This has nothing to do with what you have on paper (money, status, etc). It’s about creating the belief in her mind that your sexual market value exceeds hers. Skills like confidence, dominance and charm can demonstrate higher market value.
Demonstrate That Other Women Desire You
One of the most powerful ways to demonstrate your higher market value to a woman is to show that you are desired by other women. This displays social proof and pre-selection – two extremely attractive traits.
When a woman sees that other females are interested in you, it triggers her competitive instincts massively. She’ll think “What’s so special about this guy that all these other women want him? I need to lock him down before someone else does!”
Seeing that you’re able to attract other women will single-handedly boost your value in her eyes, creating scarcity and demand. This gets her chasing after you.
Have Unshakeable Confidence In Yourself
True high-value men have an unshakeable sense of confidence and self-assurance. They know who they are and are comfortable being themselves 100%. This creates an extremely attractive “grounded” vibe that women instinctively respond to.
Most men wrongly believe that external things like money, muscles, etc. will give them confidence around women. But real confidence comes from within and cannot be bought.
Develop true self-confidence by focusing on these habits:
- Become 100% comfortable being yourself and living life on your terms.
- Let go of needing approval or validation from others. Adopt an “I don’t give a f*ck” attitude.
- Realize you have inherent value simply by being a man. You don’t need to prove your worth.
Your sense of grounded self-confidence is picked up on by women intuitively. It makes you stand out massively from other men.
Have the Ability to “Just Say No”
High value men have mastered themselves to the point that they are never controlled by lust or sex. They have the ability to decline sex if they want to, even when it’s readily available.
This level of self-mastery is extremely rare and attractive to women. They’re used to men always chasing sex as the end goal.
When you make it clear (subtly) that you don’t “need” sex from her, it massively boosts your perceived value. She sees that you’re not needy like most men. You stand out by being a master of yourself.
This is one of the most powerful ways to signal high status to women on a primal level. Saying “no” shows you’re abundant, desirable and have options – the ultimate trifecta of attraction traits.
How to Create “Emotional” Attraction
While men are very visual when it comes to attraction, women experience attraction through their emotions. This means that unlike men, women are not so easily seduced by looks.
What attracts women is a man who makes them FEEL a certain way. Women love men who can stir their emotions – things like happiness, passion, excitement, etc.
Some ways to create “emotional attraction” with women include:
- Using playful banter and humor to make her laugh. Laughter releases bonding chemicals.
- Displaying charm through your body language, eye contact, voice tonality and words. This displays confidence.
- Creating an exciting, fun vibe when you interact with her. Women love men who bring adventure.
- Flirting and building sexual tension. Make her feel girly in contrast to your masculine vibe.
- Opening up emotionally and showing some vulnerability. This draws her in emotionally.
Learning how to connect with women through emotions makes you stand out from other men instantly. It’s a skill that grabs her attention.
Focus On Genuine Connection, Not “Closing”
Most men approach dating with the wrong mindset – they’re focused on “closing” the deal (i.e. having sex). They try to move the interaction forward too quickly before creating a real bond.
Women easily detect when a man is rushing to get in their pants and it’s a massive turn-off. It reveals he’s desperate and not in control of himself.
Instead, focus on connecting with women through real conversation and emotional bonding. Enjoy the interaction for what it is rather than trying to force something physically.
When you make real connections, sex will happen seamlessly. She’ll be the one trying to take things to the bedroom, not you.
This genuine, non-needy approach also builds incredible long-term relationships with women. It shows her you want more than just a physical fling.
Attracting women is counter-intuitive for most men. It’s not about showing off your money, looks or accomplishments. What attracts women is displaying true confidence, abundance and emotional mastery around them.
When you demonstrate high sexual market value, make real emotional connections and focus on bonding rather than sex, you become irresistible to women. Master these skills and women will start chasing YOU.